One thing I have learned from life is to appreciate the memories. Some of my dearest friends have already died. I am sure that more will die in the future. As I get older, it seems to hurt more and last longer. Death is a horrible thing, but there are some things that death cannot do. Death may take them out of our midst, but death cannot take them out of our minds. Death may take them out of our homes, but death cannot take them out of our hearts. Death may take them out of our meetings, but death cannot take them out of our memories.
I have learned that “making memories” is far more important than I realized when I was younger. I have also learned to pay more attention to what is going on now than I have in the past. The present will soon be the past. And part of life is simply “Making Memories.”One of my favorite songs that Elvis sung was entitled, “Memories.” Remember the first words: “Memories, pressed between the pages of my mind, Memories, sweetened thru the ages just like wine.” In church we sing a song entitled,“Precious Memories.” They are “precious.” I wish I had paid more attention—in my childhood…in school…in the early years of my marriage…when my children were growing up….etc. I wish I had spent more time with my father and mother. I wish I had spent more time with my children when they were small. I wish I had…I wish I had…I wish I had…
But I have also learned that: “If only I’d” or “Someday I’ll” will hardly ever make you smile. In other words, crying over mistakes of the past and procrastination concerning things we need to do now will usually only bring sorrow. We all could have done better. We all could have done more. We all could have been more attentive. We all could have been more affectionate. We all could have spent more time with those we love. We all could have been wiser. We all could have shown more concern. We all could have…and on and on the list goes. But the truth is: We “only go around once in life” and we are not allowed a “practice run,” nor are we allowed to correct all of our mistakes. What is done is done. What has happened has happened. What “should have been” has very little, if anything, to do with “what is.” It is what it is. I have learned that the past is…past.
I have also learned—the hard way—that all “memories” are not “precious.” Some of them are “painful.” If I had it to do over, knowing what I know now, it would have been different in a lot of areas, but that is not part of the plan. I have learned, at least to some degree, to focus on the present. I have also learned that just promising to do better and planning to do better will not get it done. I must practice doing better. Hopefully, one thing that will help me to live in the present is to realize that, as I go through life, I am “making memories” and they will be “precious” or “painful” depending on the “path” I choose. When I think about some of the memories I have made, I thank God for forgiveness! I thank God for Jesus!