The Security of The Believer–Not the Unbeliever # 2

QUESTION: A good/sincere student of the Bible writes: “My question of the day is something I’ve been studying on and I wanted to know your thoughts on it. I’ve believed all my life that once I get sincerely born again and know it for sure, that I could never lose my salvation by disqualifying myself by slipping up and sinning. Everyone sins every day right? What if I was born again and sinned for whatever reason and had no time to repent of it or ask forgiveness, and a truck hit me and I died. Would I go to hell because I didn’t have enough time to ask forgiveness? Is once saved always saved true?”

ANSWER: I, too, believe in the security of the BELIEVER. A BELIEVER is one who trusts in, and relies on, the sacrifice of Jesus to save him and his faith shows itself in seeking to follow the Lord and do His will (Jam. 2:17-18). I believe that all BELIEVERS do sin (I Jn. 1:8), but the blood of Jesus keeps us clean from our sins ( I Jn 1:7). I do not believe that God counts the sins of a BELIEVER against him, because they are continually forgiven by the sacrifice of Jesus (II Cor. 5:18 -19). Therefore, if a BELIEVER “sinned and had no time to repent of it and ask for forgiveness and a truck hit him and he died”, I do not believe that he will be lost. God does not impute or reckon sin to a BELIEVER (Rom. 4:8).
I believe that once a sinner becomes a BELIEVER (born again of water and the Spirit, Jn. 3:3-5) that he is always in a saved state as long as he continues to believe. In I John 5:13 the Bible says:
These things I have written to you who believe in the name of the Son of God, that you may know that you have eternal life, and that you may continue to believe in the name of the Son of God. (NKJV)
In Revelation 2:10, Jesus said “Be faithful (i.e. continue to trust in Me) until death and I will give you the crown of life.” Why tell them to “be faithful” if being faithful is not necessary? If they were going to get the “crown of life” anyway, why did He say “be faithful”?
Therefore, the question we need to consider is: “Can a BELIEVER (one who trusts in Jesus) become an “UNBELIEVER” (one who quits trusting in the sacrifice of Jesus)? Can a person who is “faithful” become “unfaithful”?
There are plenty of verses in the Bible that clearly say that a BELIEVER can become an unbeliever. A person who is a BELIEVER AND KNOWS IT FOR SURE can quit trusting (believing) in Jesus, turn his back on Jesus, go back into the world of rebellion and sin, fall from grace, and be lost eternally.
Note the following verses from the letter to the Hebrew BELIEVERS:
Hebrews 3:1 Wherefore, holy brethren, partakers of the heavenly calling, consider the Apostle and High Priest of our profession, Christ Jesus;
Observe that these were H0LY brethren and partakers of the heavenly calling.
Then observe also what the writer said to these saved people:
Hebrews 3:12 Take heed, brethren, lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief, in departing from the living God.
Observe carefully, that these “holy brethren” who were “partakers of the heavenly calling” were warned that “any” of them could have “an evil heart of UNBELIEF” and depart from God.
Note also, in the book of Galatians, what is said about how some had “become estranged” or “alienated” from Christ. Some had quit trusting in His sacrifice and started trusting in their law keeping to save them. Therefore Paul wrote in Galatians 5:4: You have become estranged from Christ, you who attempt to be justified by law; you have fallen away from grace. (NKJV). The NIV has: You who are trying to be justified by law have been alienated from Christ; you have fallen away from grace.
Observe that he did not say, imply, or insinuate that they could not fall from grace, but rather he said, “you have fallen away from grace”. It is also interesting that the only time the Bible specifically uses the phrase “falling away from grace” it was because some had fallen from grace.
Therefore, it seems to me that the Bible clearly teaches that it is possible for a Christian to turn away from Christ and be lost eternally because of it.
However, I do not believe that one can, or will, “lose his salvation by slipping up and sinning” as long as he does not lose his faith in Jesus. But it is possible (and it has happened) that Christians have lost their faith and have quit trusting in Him at all. They now have no faith in Him as is evidenced by the fact that they have quit the church altogether and live lives just like those in the world (who do not and never have trusted in Him).
I am well aware of the numerous passages that teach that the BELIEVER is secure in Christ. (Such as: Ps. 37:23-24; Jn 5:24 & 10:27-30; Rom. 8:38-39; Heb. 13:5; Jude 1:1, etc.). I believe these verses are true and that the BELIEVER (one who continually trusts in and seeks to follow Christ) is secure. However, I do not believe in the security of the unbeliever (one who has never trusted in Christ, or one who ceases to trust in Christ).
Almost every book of the New Testament teaches that a BELIEVER must continue to believe in, and follow Christ, or else, he will be lost. For example, read the following verses:
Matthew 25:14-30 One of His servants was lost.
Mark 13:13 He who endures to end will be saved.
Luke 8:13 Some believe for a while, then fall away.
Luke 15:11-31 A son was lost and is found.
John 15:1-5 One who does not abide (continue/remain) in Him is cast into fire.
Acts 1:25 Judas by transgression fell.
Acts 8:13-24 Simon (a believer) could perish if he did not repent.
Romans 8:13 Christians who live after flesh die spiritually.
I Corinthians 8:11 A brother can perish for whom Christ died.
I Corinthians 10:12 Saints must take heed lest they fall.
II Corinthians 6:1 Saints can receive grace in vain.
Galatians 5:4 Some had fallen from grace.
Ephesians 5:3-7 Wrath will come on sons of disobedience.
Philippians 3:12-14 Christians must keep reaching & pressing.
Colossians 1:22-23 Saved only if we continue in the faith.
I Thessalonians 3:1-8 We live if we stand fast in the Lord.
II Thessalonians 2:15 Christians must stand fast.
I Timothy 1:19-20 Some had their faith to shipwreck.
II Timothy 4:10 Demas forsook Paul having loved this present world.
Titus 3:8 Believers must be careful to maintain good works.
Philemon 1:5 Why mention faith if he did not have to keep it.
Hebrews 6:4-6 & 10:26-29 Some fall away and forsake.
James 5:19-20 A Brother who errs from truth must be saved from death.
I Peter 4:19 Christians must commit souls to Him by doing good.
II Peter 1:10 Christians must take heed lest we fall.
II Peter 2:20-22 Saints can go back into world and be overcome by it.
I John 5:16 Christians can commit a sin unto death.
II John 1:9-11 We must abide in the teaching of Christ.
III John 1:4 Christians must walk in truth.
Jude 1:5 He saved them, then destroyed those who did not believe.
Revelation 3:5 Our name can be blotted out of the book of life.                                                   THESE ARE JUST SOME OF THE MANY VERSES THAT STATE (OR IMPLY) THAT BELIEVERS MUST CONTINUE TO BELIEVE IN ORDER TO CONTINUE TO BE BELIEVERS.
I know some who say, “If you got it, you can’t lose it, and if you lose it, you never had it”. I personally see no comfort, or security, in this statement. If this statement is true, then it seems to me that one would have to wait and make sure he did not lose it to know whether or not he ever had it!
However, the Hebrew Christians had it (Heb. 3:1), and were warned time and again that they could lose it if the forsook Christ, crucified Him afresh, counted His blood (that had sanctified them) an unholy thing and had an evil heart of unbelief. (See Heb. 2:1-3; 3:12-13; 6:1-6; 10:25-29; & 12:25).
Also, I have heard something like: “If one’s faith fizzles before the finish, then it was flawed from the first.” Neither do I see any comfort, or security, in this statement. If this statement is true, then, it would seem to me, that one would have to wait until the finish to know if his faith was flawed or not. If it fizzles then it is flawed, and if it does not fizzle then it is not flawed. But we will have to wait until the finish to see if we really have fizzling faith or finishing faith.

And to answer your last question: “Is once saved always saved true?”
Yes! A BELIEVER is always saved as long as he is a BELIEVER. But when one ceases to believe, then he ceases to be a BELIEVER and he will be lost. I believe that God is “able to keep you from stumbling” (Jude v. 24) and I believe that He will. However, He only keeps those who want to be kept. Therefore Believers have the responsibility to “keep yourselves in the love of God” (Jude v. 21) by continuing to trust in Him for salvation. I hope this helps.

Wayne Dunaway
G & P Ministries

The Holy Spirit Indwells Personally



1. I believe that the Holy Spirit Himself really, literally, actually, personally,or just about any other way you want to say it, dwells, lives, and resides in heart of the Christian.
2. I cannot explain the mechanics of how that happens, but I believe that the Bible clearly teaches it and I accept it simply because that is what the Bible says as well as what I have experienced in my own life.
3. I believe that the Spirit dwells in us in harmony with the word and in conjunction with the word, but never in conflict or contrary to the word.
4. The Bible clearly teaches that both the Spirit and the word dwell in the Christian:
a. Colossians 3:16 “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly.”
b. Romans 8:9 “But ye are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if indeed the Spirit of God dwells in you…”
5. I do not believe that there is any such thing as a “measure” of the Spirit. In fact, the Bible clearly says, “for God does not give the Spirit by measure” (Jn. 3:34, NKJV, ESV, ASV, NASB, NIV).
6. There are various “gifts” or “manifestations” that the Spirit distributes “to each one individually as He wills (1 Cor. 12:11), and “according to His own will” (Heb. 2:4), but those gifts are not different amounts of the Spirit Himself (Jn. 3:34).
7. The idea that Jesus had the Spirit without measure, and the apostles had a gallon, and the prophets had a quart, and the miracle workers had a pint, and the tongue speakers had a cup full, and you and I get a teaspoonful, or thimbleful, is not taught in the Bible.
8. Remember that the Holy Spirit is a person and you have Him dwelling in you or you do not have Him at all (Jn. 3:34).
9. And the Bible clearly teaches that the Spirit of God dwells in the child of God.
a. Acts 5:32 “…the Holy Spirit whom God has given to them that obey Him.”
b. I Cor. 6:19 “…your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God…”
c. Gal. 4:6 “…God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son into your hearts…”
d. Eph. 3:16 “…strengthened with might by His Spirit in the inner man.”
e. I Thess. 4:8″…God, who has given us His Holy Spirit.”
f. See also Jn. 7:37-39; 14:16-18; Acts 2:38-39; Rom.5:5; 8:9-11; 1 Cor. 3:16; 12:13; II Cor. 5:5; Gal. 3:2; Eph. 1:13-14; 2:22; 4:30; 2 Tim. 1:14; Titus 3:5-6; Heb. 6:4; James 4:5; 1 Jn. 3:24; and 4:13.
10. But there are some (a very small minority in my judgment) who believe that the Spirit dwells in us only through the very words in the Bible.
11. Those who believe in the “word only” indwelling cannot produce one passage that says the Spirit dwells in us “through the word.”
12. The Bible does say that the church is a “habitation of God through the Spirit,” but it never says that the church is the “habitation of the Spirit through the word.”
13. In this study, we will notice reasons why I believe the “word only” concept of the Spirit’s indwelling cannot be true.



A. Peter promised the “gift of the Holy Spirit” to those who would “repent and be baptized.” He said to those who believed his message: “Repent, and let every one of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins; and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit” (Acts 2:38).
B. “Then those who gladly received his word were baptized…” (Acts 2:41).
C. If the Spirit indwells one through the words of the Spirit then, since the word was received before baptism, the Holy Spirit indwelled those people before baptism.
D. These people received the word (Acts 2:41) before they were baptized, but according to Peter’s promise on this occasion they were to “repent and be baptized” in order to “receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.”


1. The Bible clearly teaches that the Holy Spirit was not given to those “believing” in Jesus until “after” He was glorified (Jn. 7:39).
a. Jesus “suffered” and then entered “into His glory” (Lk. 24:26).
b. He was “glorified” after His death, burial, and resurrection when He ascended into heaven (Acts 2:29-33).
c. It was after He went “away” that He sent the Holy Spirit to the disciples (Jn. 14:7; Acts 1:4-8; 2:1-4, 33).
2. But the apostles had “received” His word during His earthly ministry. Note:
a. Jn. 15:3 “You are already clean because of the word which I have spoken to you.”
b. Jn. 17:6 “They have kept your word.”
c. Jn. 15:7 “If you abide in me and my words abide in you…”
d. Jn. 17:8 “For I have given to them the words which you have given me and they have received them…”
3. Note carefully that Jesus said, “I have given to them the words” and “they have received them…” (Jn. 17:6). The apostles had the word in them, but they did not have the indwelling Spirit because the Spirit was not given to them until after the resurrection of Jesus.
4. If the Spirit dwelt in them as the words of Christ dwells in them, they already had the Spirit before the Spirit was given (Jn. 7:37-39).


1. “For our gospel did not come to you in word only, but also in power and in the Holy Spirit.” (I Thess. 1:5). Note: Our gospel came not in word only, but also in power and in the Holy Spirit.
2. The gospel came also to the Thessalonians “in the Holy Spirit.”
a. What did that mean?
b. Notice in the next verse how they “received the word” with “joy of the Holy Spirit” (1:6).
c. I take that to mean they received the word as well as the joy of the Holy Spirit (i.e. the joy of having the Holy Spirit.)
d. In chapter 4:8 he later affirmed the fact God has also “given us his Holy Spirit.”
3. Therefore, the gospel did not come to them in “word only,” but also “in the Holy Spirit” (I Thess. 1:5) whom God has “given us” (1 Thess. 4:8).


1. The Book of Hebrews was written to “holy brethren” (Heb. 3:1).
2. In Chapter 6, the writer encourages them to “go on to perfection” (Heb. 6:1).
3. He reminded them of what had already been taught, and what had already occurred in their lives (Heb. 6:1-5).
4. Notice carefully, in verses 4 and 5, two of the things that are said:
a. They had become “partakers of the Holy Spirit” (v. 4).
b. They had “tasted the good word of God” (v.5).
5. Please observe they had become partakers of the “Holy Spirit” AND have tasted the good “word” of God.
6. It was not “Spirit only” or “word only,” but the Spirit and the word.

A. One of the most encouraging and powerful motivations there is in living the Christian life is the knowledge and assurance of God’s presence in the heart of the Christian through the indwelling Spirit.
B. Just knowing that God Himself is personally in us is an encouragement not to sin and to “glorify God in our body and our Spirit which are God’s” (See 1 Cor. 6:18-20).
C. There is absolutely no reason to allow anyone to take our faith in this fact and this force out of our hearts.
D. The Bible clearly teaches it in numerous passages that can be understood by anyone who reads them. Read the verses yourself, trust and rely on His help, and you can easily see for yourself.

Wayne Dunaway


Our outline is:

I. Her Great Faith (Ch. 1)

1. Ruth 1:16 – She said your God shall be MY God.
2. Ruth 2:12 – To the God of Israel she came for refuge.

II. Her Good Fortune (Chs. 2-3)

1. Ruth 2:3 – She “happened” to come to the right field. She “happened” to come at the right time. She “happened” to meet the right man. Why? Because God made it happen.
2. Ruth 2:12 – The Lord repaid her work and she was rewarded.

III. Her Godly Family (Ch. 4)

1. Ruth 4:13 – She bore a son.
2. Ruth 4:18-22 – She helped provide a Savior. (Matt. 1:1-5).

Conclusion: Her great faith led to a good fortune which led to a godly family. The book begins with her tragedy but ends in her triumph. It begins with a burial but ends with a birth. Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning. (Ps. 30:5)

Thank for Jesus who encourages us with truth from Ruth.

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An Imaginary Lectureship

I went to an imaginary lectureship,
Way back up in the hills,
And listening to the speakers,
Was like taking sleeping pills.

At first, I thought it might be me,
But I had to think again,
When I heard one of the speakers say,
Women cannot say “Amen!”

“A woman must be silent,”
And silence means “not a word!”
But then he said that she must sing,
Which must be totally absurd!

We should not applaud at a baptism
You can nod if you approve.
(I guess the thing that makes it wrong,
Is the body part you move!)

It is wrong to build gymnasiums,
A kitchen is a sin.
And should you have “Youth Ministers,”
The Lord won’t let you in.

A chorus or a praise team,
Is clearly out of place.
And if someone sings a solo
It’s really a big disgrace.

It is wrong to eat in the building,
But water we can drink.
(We can even have a bathroom,
With a commode as well as a sink.)

The “Church” can’t help non-Christians,
And that’s really kind of sad,
To teach that helping the needy,
Makes the good Lord say, “You’re bad!”

We can’t have Bible classes,
If some could have their way,
And VBS is surely wrong,
If you let the children “play.”

One cup for the communion,
Use more, and you’re under a curse.
(I would think that during the “flu” season
It’d be good if you drank first.)

We must use the King James Version,
Or maybe, the ASV.
Those other “perverted” Bibles,
Are as sinful as can be!

If you’re in a second marriage
You’ll likely have to divorce.
Being faithful to these vows you made,
Is something we do not indorse.

There is no Second Coming–
Jesus came back in the past
He came back in A.D. 70–
And that will be His last!

We have no indwelling Spirit,
He dwells only through the word.
There is no Personal presence,
Beats all I’ve ever heard.

We cannot observe Thanksgiving
As a National Holiday.
And if we observe Christmas.
It is really “hell” to pay.

While listening to this non-sense,
I really wanted to leave.
But then, I decided to stay awhile,
Just to see if it was wrong to “breathe!”

As I thought about the sermons,
I knew why some folks quit,
Because binding these human opinions,
Will not help the church one bit.

The folks who had this lectureship,
Were really in some “ruts,”
And those of us who listened,
Had to be a bunch of “nuts!”

When the lectures were finally over,
I shook some hands and left,
And I thought as I was leaving,
I’ve preached some of this stuff myself!!

When I think about how bad this is,
It’s as disturbing as can be,
When I point a finger at others,
There are three pointing back at me!

But Jesus came to save us all,
On this, there can be no doubt.
And all of us have said some stuff,
Not knowing what we were talking about!!

This was only an imaginary lectureship,
The real ones may not be so grim.
But our faith should not be in preachers,
Our faith should be only in HIM!!!

Wayne Dunaway



A. The Holy Spirit dwells (lives) in the faithful Christian.
We have:
The PROMISE – Promised to all (Jn. 7:37-39; Acts 2:38-39).
The PLEDGE – Given to all (Acts 5:32).
The PLACE – In the heart/inner man (Gal. 4:6; Eph. 3:16; 1 Cor. 6:19).
The PROOF – God cannot lie. (Titus 1:2; Heb. 6:18).
The PREDICAMENT – We are not His without the Spirit (Rom. 8:8-9).
The PURPOSE – This is the basis of this study
B. What does the indwelling Spirit do for the Christian today?
C. (S-P-I-R-I-T) Each letter reminds us of something the Spirit does for the Christian.

I. Seals & Strengthens.

A. The “S” could stand for “Sealed.”
1. The Spirit seals us as God’s own (2 Tim. 2:19).
2. “You were sealed with the Holy Spirit of promise” (Eph. 1:13).
3. “The Holy Spirit…by whom you were sealed for the
day of redemption” (Eph. 4:30). God “has sealed us and given us the Spirit in
our hearts as a guarantee” (2 Cor. 1:22).
B. The “S” also stands for strengthens.”
1. Paul prayed that the Ephesians would be “strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man” (Eph. 3:16b).
Note: Strengthened how? Through His Spirit.
Note: Strengthened where? In the inner man.

II. Produces (Gal. 5:22-23).

A. The “P” stands for produces fruit.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control” (Gal. 5:22-23).
B. The fruit is produced in us as we co-operate with the Spirit’s leading (Rom. 8:14; 1 Tim. 4:14; 2 Tim. 1:6).
C. We can put out the Spirit’s fire (1 Thess. 5:19). He is a “helper” not an “enforcer.”

III. Intercedes (Rom. 8:26).

A. The first “I” stands for intercedes.
1. The Spirit “makes intercession for us” (Rom.8:26)
2. We do not know “how” or even “what” to pray for as we should (Rom. 8:26).
B. The indwelling Spirit helps us in these “weaknesses”.
1. In those times when our hearts are burdened or troubled to the point where we cannot even express are deepest needs, desires, and wants; God has provided His Spirit to take the “groanings which cannot be uttered” and make “intercession for the saints according to the will of God” (Rom. 8:26-27).
2. The indwelling Spirit helps us in all our other “weaknesses.”

IV. Renews.

A. The letter “R” stands for renews.
1. There is clearly a “renewing” that the Holy Spirit accomplishes in us. a. “He saved us, through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit, whom He poured out on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Savior” (Titus 3:4-6).
2. This “renewing” is a work that the indwelling Spirit continues to do “day by day”.
3. “Therefore we do not lose heart. Even though our outward man is perishing, yet the inward man is being renewed day by day” (2 Cor. 4:16).
4. It seems to me that the “the gift of the Holy Spirit” promised to believers produces the “times of refreshing” that comes “from the presence of the Lord” (Compare Acts 2:38 & 3:19).
5. Furthermore, Jesus promised “that the water that I shall give him will become in him a fountain of water springing up into eternal life” (Jn. 4:14). He later identified this “living water” as “the Spirit whom those believing in Him would receive” (Jn. 7:37-39).
6. I probably need to remind you that it is not my purpose or plan to explain how the Spirit accomplishes this “renewing.” I simply believe that He does it. (Note: I can’t explain how God can “renew the face of the earth,” but I believe He can and does. (See Psalm 104:30).

V. Imparts (Rom. 12:6-8).

A. The second “i” stands for Imparts.
1. I believe that every Christian is gifted by the Spirit to do something in the kingdom.
2. I believe that God produces and develops various gifts or abilities in us by His indwelling Spirit.
3. I am not talking about the “miraculous gifts” that were generally given instantly by the laying on of the apostles’ hands (1 Cor. 12:8-10; Acts 8:18; 19:5; Rom. 1:11), but I am talking about gifts or abilities given by God to the Christian.
B. Not all spiritual “gifts” given by God in the New Testament were “miraculous” in nature.
1. Paul lists such abilities or gifts as “ministering,” “teaching,” “exhorting,” “giving,” and “showing mercy” as “gifts” that are “given to us” (Rom. 12:6-8).
2. God has given to “each one” a measure of faith (Rom. 12:3).
a. All members do not have the same function (Rom. 12:4).
b. The Spirit distributes to “each one” as He wills (1 Cor. 12:11).
c. He sets the members in the body “just as He pleased” (1 Cor. 12:18).
d. And “every joint (member) supplies” something for the “edifying” of the body or church (Eph. 4:16).
e. Notice carefully 1 Peter 4:10-11:
i. “As each one has received a gift” (verse 10a).
ii. “Minister it” (i.e. the gift) to one another (verse 10b).
iii. If anyone ministers let him do it as with the ability which God supplies (verse 11).

VI. Transforms (2 Cor. 3:17-18).

A. The “T” stands for transforms.
1. Paul told the saints in Rome to “be transformed by
the renewing of your mind” (Rom. 12:2).
2. The Holy Spirit has a part in this transformation.
3. Christians are continually “being transformed into the same image” of Christ “by the Spirit of the Lord” (2 Cor. 3:17-18).
4. God is at work in us helping us “both to will and to do of His good pleasure” (Phil. 4:13).
5. He is “working” in us “what is well pleasing in His sight through Jesus Christ” (Heb. 13:21).


A. We cannot allow Satan or anyone else to take the Holy Spirit out of the heart and life of the Christian.

1. If we do:
a. They take away our Helper (Jn. 14:17) and leave us all orphans (Jn. 14:18).
b. They leave us in the flesh (Rom. 8:9a).
c. They make us none of His (Rom. 8:9b).
d. They take away our spiritual life (Rom. 8:11, 2 Cor. 3:6).
e. They take away our being a temple of God (1 Cor. 3:16; 2 Cor. 6:16).
f. They leave us thirsty (1 Cor. 12:13, Jn. 7:37).
g. They take away our sonship (Gal. 4:6).
h. They take away the fruit of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22-23).
i. They take away what God promised (Eph. 1:13).
j. They take away our seal (Eph. 1:13, 4:30; 2 Tim. 2:19).
k. They take away our guarantee (Eph. 1:14).
l. They take away our being a habitation of God (Eph. 2:22).
m. They take away a source of strength (Eph. 3:16).
n. They take away Him whom Jesus poured out on us abundantly (Titus 3:5-6).
o. They take away our proof that God abides in us (1 Jn. 3:24, 4:13).
p. They take away the “water of life” (Rev. 22:17, Jn. 4:14, 7:37-39).
q. They take away the “Spirit Himself” (Rom. 8:26); “Who is in you” (1 Cor. 6:19); “Whom God has given to them that obey Him” (Acts 5:32); and who is given to “even as many as the Lord our God shall call” (Acts 2:38-39).

Wayne Dunaway December 14, 2005



A Marriage Question: Brother Wayne, my husband who is not a Christian has walked out of our marriage. There does not seem to be anyone else. He just decided he doesn’t want to be married any longer. He refused to go to counseling and walked out on me and the children. He had been pulling away for years and finally decided to leave for good. I have heard about your book on divorce and remarriage, but do not have it, and do not know what to do now. I am in complete turmoil and fear of having to live alone for the rest of my life. I was brought up in a very conservative Church of Christ, so you most likely know what I have been taught. What am I to do? Can I ever get married again?

My response: I believe that the Bible is very clear about what must be done in some of these cases. LET. HIM. WALK!!! And while I certainly would not make the decision for you, because that is between you and God, I do believe that you need to know what the Bible says, then make up your own mind. But some things are obvious. We cannot keep people in our lives that refuse to be kept in our lives. One cannot stay married to someone who has deserted the marriage. In those cases where it cannot be saved after reasonable efforts to save it have failed, then the deserted party must recognize that the “marriage is over” and seek God’s help in getting “over the marriage.” When a “relationship is over,”, all we can do is seek God’s help in getting “over the relationship.” Paul is very clear about what some should do when in this very situation. Read it yourself.

But if the UNBELIEVER DEPARTS, LET HIM DEPART; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has CALLED US TO PEACE. (1 Corinthians 7:15; NKJV).

God has called us to “peace.” He has not called us to persistent punishment, self-condemnation, and self-abuse. He has not called us to a life of celibacy simply because a former marriage partner decided to walk out of the relationship. If a mate has “walked out” then in most cases all we can do is “LET’EM WALK!”

Is it a sin for you to marry if you are divorced? You decide! You do not need any help from me or from anyone else to understand what God has said. All you really need to know is what He said and where He said it. The main ones who need “help” in understanding this are those who have been taught by those who have misunderstood this. Read what God said about those “loosed from” (which must include those divorced) a mate.

Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. are you LOOSED FROM A WIFE? Do not seek a wife. But even IF YOU DO MARRY, you have NOT SINNED; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. (1 Corinthians 7:27-28; NKJV).

It is not a sin for a deserted partner to marry because a believer is “not under bondage” to a mate or marriage that no longer exists because one party chooses to walk out (1 Cor. 7:15). If some of your friends or Church members need help “understanding” this, then it is obviously a situation where more help is needed than we are qualified to give them. We can “explain it” to them…but we cannot “understand it” for them. Paul clearly says that those “loosed from” a mate has “not sinned” if they “marry.” That must include those who have been deserted by an unbelieving mate because Paul had just dealt with that very situation earlier in this very chapter (7:15). Sometimes the best way to “get over” an unfaithful mate is to find a faithful one. But again, your decision about what you should do is between you and Jesus. Reading my book, reading this response, or listening to others may help, but your decision needs to be based on what you understand the Bible to teach. Pray, ponder, and then practice what Jesus teaches and leads you to do. I would believe that if it is God’s will that “you marry,” then He will bring someone into your life who will “marry you.”

I deal with this in chapter 10 and chapter 24 of my book on MDR. Also, in Appendix # 6, I quote from some of the best minds, and at one time some of the most respected men in the Church of Christ, who also understood 1 Corinthians 7:15 exactly as it is written. If you want a copy of my book, send me your address and I will send you a copy free. I wrote it to help people like you. I will also be praying for you and your family. Blessings!

Wayne Dunaway

How Do We Know We Are Going To Go?


We know that we will go to Heaven because of:


1. The Promise Jesus Made

First, I know that those in Christ will go to Heaven because of the promise Jesus made. Some of the most familiar verses in the Bible are about the mansions in Heaven that He is preparing for us and the promise that He will come again and take us to be with Him (John 14:1-2). He “promises” and He even “swears” that He will take us there (Heb. 6:16-20, NASV). Since God cannot lie (Titus 1:2)—indeed, it is impossible for God to lie (Heb. 6:18)—then we can have “strong encouragement” because our hope is both “sure and steadfast.”

I know that we live in a world where our leaders lie and speak with “forked tongue.” One man asked another, “How do you know when a politician is lying?” The other answered, “When his mouth is moving.” I am not sure that I would go that far, but I do know that, in our world, it is hard to trust in their “promises” no matter who they are. Of course, I also know that convicts lie, lawyers lie, car salesmen lie, church members lie, elders lie, preachers lie, those who write books lie (I guess I need to move on!). What I am saying is that Jesus is not like us! When He makes a promise, He keeps it and we know that we are going to go because of the promise Jesus made.


2. The Prayer Jesus Prayed

Second, I know that those in Christ will go to Heaven because of the prayer Jesus prayed. In John 17, Jesus prayed a prayer for His disciples and for us (v. 20). In that prayer, He prayed that His Father would “keep” us (v. 11). He prayed that His Father would “protect” us (v. 15). Then in verse 24, He prayed: “Father, I want those you have given me to be with me where I am.” Notice carefully that He prayed that we would be with Him in Heaven.

There are many praying men in the Bible. Daniel was a man who believed in praying (Dan. 6, 9). Elijah was known as a man of prayer (James 5:17-18). Prayer is powerful. Prayer put hungry lions on a diet and stopped rain for over three years. God listens when His people pray even though we don’t always do what is right. But Jesus could say, “I always do those things that please Him” (John 8:29). Therefore, He could say to His Father, “And I know that You always hear Me” (John 11:42). Since the Father always hears Him, and He prayed that we would be in Heaven, then I know we are going because of the prayer that Jesus prayed.


3. The Price Jesus Paid

Finally, I know that those in Christ, who continually trust in Him and seek to do His will for their lives, will go to Heaven because of the price Jesus paid. Jesus died for sins once for all, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring us to God (1 Pet. 3:18). He was obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross (Phil. 2:8). Isaiah said: “He was wounded for the wrong we did. He was crushed for the evil we did. The punishment, which made us well, was given to him, and we are healed because of his wounds. We all have wandered away like sheep; each of us has gone his own way. But the LORD has put on him the punishment for all the evil we have done” (Isa. 53:5-6, NCV). Therefore, “It is finished” (John 19:30). He has “offered one sacrifice for sins forever” and has “sat down” (Heb. 10:12).

Why has He sat down? Because nothing else needs to be done as far as the sacrifice for sins is concerned. Furthermore, since God “did not spare even his own Son but gave him up for us all, won’t he also give us everything else?” (Rom. 8:32, NLT). In other words, if God let Jesus die for us, then surely, surely, surely, He will give us all the things that we need to get us to Heaven! The promise Jesus made, the prayer Jesus prayed, and the price Jesus paid should help His people be unafraid.

This is from my book, “Heaven: Where Few Are Many.” It can be ordered from me or from Amazon.